UPDATE: One week before take-off . . . so many details floating around in my head and jotted on sticky notes, who knows where? It's important that I have some clothing in my bags, but I also need to be "clothed in Christ" with the right attitudes and motivations. Reading The City of Joy and watching Born into Brothels has been a real eye-opener . . .
SUNFLOWER--Every part is useful, nothing is wasted. One seed can bear a towering flower, then in turn, a single flower head can produce dozens of seeds that multiply beauty. GOSPEL--A proclamation of good news. May these stories, like seeds, spread beauty, laughter, wisdom and peace to friends all over the world.
18 December 2009
Needy Women Seeking Help
UPDATE: One week before take-off . . . so many details floating around in my head and jotted on sticky notes, who knows where? It's important that I have some clothing in my bags, but I also need to be "clothed in Christ" with the right attitudes and motivations. Reading The City of Joy and watching Born into Brothels has been a real eye-opener . . .
17 December 2009
P.S. On Expecting Twins
. . . "God is both Father and Potter, already at work shaping your children (and their parents)." His gracious plan is to include us in His awesome process . . . and humble, vulnerable, imperfect parents are not required to make the journey alone. Most of us can attest that there is only one perfect parent.
Perhaps our determination NOT to create a "matched set" has something to do with it . . . but I have lived long enough to believe that God has created every child--multiple or single--as a unique person with a specific role in His (not my) Story. So yes. . . parenting multiples will be a challenge. I wanted to run away from home on more than one day; but I wouldn't trade my worst experiences for anything, because these were the souls entrusted to me by the Lord of the Universe. These were the very ones God used to insure that I would grow up in Him. My prayer is that when all the crazy people out there observe you out and about with kids so interesting in gender, number, skin color or development, that they will look at you and recognize above all that "Strength and dignity are her clothing and she smiles at the future." (Proverbs 31:25)
05 December 2009
Rare Houston Snow Sparks Memories
28 November 2009
Yesterday's Fleeting Thought: Boycotting Christmas!
How did we ever reconcile that all the energy and money we put into decorating and shopping has anything to do with Christ's Nativity? My Muslim friends have asked me the same thing. Even the original St. Nicholas, whom I've loyally supported for years, was leaving gifts for the POOR, identifying with Christ's humble incarnation. Yeah. Boycott the fake parts. I liked the idea more and more.
No Christmas cards this year? Check. No lights on the shrubs? Check. Well . . . I bought those replacement bulbs and the garland for the front door, and a $9.99 photosensor to save energy. No Christmas tree? Aww, but I bought a cute little motorized Thomas the Train set to run around the tree for my grandson. So I suppose the (skinny, artificial, pre-lighted) tree must be dragged out. Yes, and I already bought a little bag of Evergreen mix at Yarrow Acres to make it SMELL real. So only the most meaningful ornaments (can't go there yet) and my Potting Shed Nativity (minus a broken shepherd from last year) . . . and the gumdrop tree, a 50-year family tradition (sigh). But . . . no stockings hanging over the fireplace? Mmm, not sure my adult children could handle not finding them stuffed full of cash and gift cards on Christmas morning. Could I? It was a fleeting thought: boycotting Christmas. At least I will simplify and work harder to sift out the fake from the real. Does that make me a Grinch?
24 November 2009
Kolkata Bound New Year
13 November 2009
Straighten Up and Fly . . . er, PARK Right!
28 October 2009
My First Cookbook (c. 1959)
21 October 2009
Ode to Campho-Phenique
I never dreamed what a big response I'd get when I told my Facebook friends what was on my mind this afternoon . . EEA: Remember "Windex" from My Big Fat Greek wedding? My dad's miracle remedy is Campho-Phenique."
In just a few hours, here were some of the comments I received . . .
Katie T. likes this.
(Cousin) Susan: "Do they even sell that anymore? I'm amazed. It was my family's cure-all of choice too -- at least until Bactine came out. Must have been an Everett thing!
EEA: "Definitely Everetts. I've been sick, in fact, I had to cancel my trip to see my parents this week. Chuck called today to remind me that a drop in each nostril might just cure me!"
Julie P: It's a miracle!
(Cousin) Beth: 'Yep, I remember that stuff. What a distinctive aroma! Take care of yourself, cousin!"
Julie C: "I'm a HUGE believer in Campho-Phenique! It cures everything."
(Childhood friend) Luke: "We still use it for everything from sore gums to mosquito bites."
Katie Jo: "holy cow we used that stuff for everything, the scent takes me back!"
EEA: "Y'all are too much!!! Can't wait to tell "Chuckles" what a hit he was on FB today.
Well, Chuckles . . . all this (plus my Benydryl, Mucinex, C tabs and Campho-coated nostrils) took me back to the good old days when you would whip out the Campho-phenique and a Q-tip for everything from mouth ulcers to mosquito bites. If it was a really nasty scrape, we'd be crying before you ever touched it, chiding "Just blow on it--it doesn't hurt!" Whatever . . . decades later, look at all the people who are on the bandwagon supporting Dr. Chuck's medical brigade!
In your honor, here's a little Campho-phenique trivia and a place to click in case you should ever overdose on the stuff. In 1867, Joseph Lister demonstrated that phenol cleansing of patients' skin before andafter surgery could greatly reduce infections. In 1884, Campho-Phenique Liquid was introduced. In 1944, Campho-Phenique Liquid was purchased by Sterling Drug. In 1945, Campho-Phenique was repositioned as a first aid antiseptic. In 1979 Campho-Phenique Gel was formulated as a first aid product (less smelly, but not as effective, people!). In 1984, Campho-Phenique Gel was repositioned as a cold sore remedy. Finally, in 2003, Campho-Phenique Cold Sore Treatment for Scab Relief is launched. Now that's just GROSS!!
Finally, Daddy, since we didn't get to celebrate your 83rd birthday together since I got the crud (but not the oink flu) , I'll close with a little ditty I whipped up just for you (sing it to the tune of one of our favorites, Little Brown Jug)
If I had a great big sore in my mouth, I wouldn't look north and I wouldn't look south;
I'd go to my bathroom cabinet and see, the little green bottle that sets men free . . .
Oh ho ho, you and me, Campho-phenique how I love thee!
And I love you, Chuckles . . .
02 October 2009
Go This Way, Squirrels
"Yes, squirrels can eat the nuts"But evidently, NOT the nuts under the Pin Oak tree . . .
26 September 2009
What's Up, Doc?
Above ground there were beautiful green carrot tops . . . .
. . . but underneath only scawny, spindly six-inch carrots!
11 September 2009
On the 8th Anniversary of 9/11, I Recalled My Most Peaceful Place
I glanced up in the heat of the day
like I did every day
and worked even more earnestly
so that certainly the time would
pass by faster.
Later my awaited moment came . . .
I was FREE and I ran
down the dirt slope to the river
never bothering to take off my dusty sandals
as I stepped carefully into the same freezing water
where my great-grandfather once drove cattle . . .
. . . and then we danced--the water and I--it was
so cold on my bare toes that I jumped and splashed, jumped and splashed . . .
meanwhile, the sun played tricks on my partner as it swirled
in tiny, shallow rapids
around the rocks in its way.
Now the sun was beginning to set--nothing new yet
ever exquisitely unique.
Surrounded by the hills my senses were keyed into nature.
I heard only the wind singing gently behind me and
I saw only the sun up ahead sliding
lower
slower
taking its time . . .
. . . the daystar, like a paintbrush, watercolored the sky with a mass of
purple pink orange and red encircling the glowing orb.
My heart soared as I climbed the mountain path,
for I thought I saw his form etched against the horizon;
though my body ached from the day's work,
his coming urged me to the top where I
dropped
in a tired heap
letting the gentle breeze ruffle my hair and caress my bones.
I turned over, resting my weary head on my arms, just in time to watch the sun
fall away in one last blaze of glory.
I let out a sigh of awe and appreciation for this marvel,
just as the night sounds began echoing through the valley . . .
I was lulled to sleep under a sky of countless stars
whose light sent a secure warmth washing over me.
I recognized the feeling like the well-worn paths.
I was not alone . . .
*Written a few months after I met Jesus as more than a historical figure
Elaine Everett Copyright 1972
12 August 2009
Pushing Through Bad Beach Karma
I grew up on the Texas Gulf Coast, enjoying Galveston's "Stewart Beach" and Freeport's "Surfside" . . . David grew up in south Texas, admiring Padre Island, just a few miles from Mexico. Fortunately, neither of us saw the "Emerald Coast" end of the Gulf until we moved to Tennessee 23 years ago. Our first family vacation was to Sandestin with three preschoolers in tow . . . at once they were hooked on the clear, turquoise water, soft white sand and abundant shells. As our kids grew, we tried several different spots along the Florida panhandle--most of them pure, blissful playgrounds. One vacation our middle schooler realized that "Someday I could live on the beach if I wanted to . . . yeah, I'm gonna find a college down here!" (same son who graduated from a college where kayaking and snowboarding were P.E. options). Once the kids left for college, we'd still find time for long weekends at various ocean spots . . . but a new pattern emerged. . . it would rain every day or . . . we would arrive during a hurricane evacuation or . . . we would arrive as an unexpected tropical storm hit (at least we were the hotel where the media and insurance people rode it out) . . . even our 25th anniversary trip to Maui dealt us rain 5/8 days--"We've never seen rain like this in decades" read the newspaper announcing the cancellation of Honolulu's Centennial.
But true beach lovers are not easily deterred . . . our latest road trip included several days at the same resort where our kids first discovered the glorious beach life. Despite our friends' jokes about bad beach karma, we soaked in several hours of sun, blue skies and emerald seas on our first full day. Until about 3:00 pm. When the sky turned black. And the flag changed to red. And our "umbrella neighbors" exclaimed, "Dios mio!" as we all retreated to the hotel. Could it really be true? Should we head for the hills? Nah. A few hours later, the sky returned to blue, the breeze cooled the evening, and the most vivid full moon lit up the sand where people were still playing volleyball well after midnight.
20 July 2009
First Moon Landing at Camp Cho Yeh
15 July 2009
Escape Plans
1. Does the sound of a bird singing get on your nerves?
2. Have you recently announced with vehemence, "I don't give a hoot about anybody!"
3. Do you believe that no amount of money can compensate for the sacrifice you make just showing up each day?
4. Do you tend to embellish? Did you say to someone, "There's a terrible storm in the 26th floor conference room?"
5. Does the motto "Revive the Muumuu" stirl longings in your breast?
If more than one is answered YES, you too, need a vacation. . .
04 July 2009
Am I My Neighbor's Sprinkler?
27 June 2009
Celebrating the Two-year old Mind (or how to entertain a grandmother)
Unloading the animals from the toy zoo
Discovering "Lainee's" bubble machine
I could follow Rainor around with a camera everytime we're together (well I guess I do), just to capture the fun little discoveries he makes week by week. As a former pediatric speech therapist, it's been a blast to track his early language development and the evolution of pretend play and problem solving from Birth to Two. Rainor has loved bubbles for a long time, but on this visit, I found the bubble machine from Amanda's wedding reception. I love how he would retreat to his doormat "fortress" when he wasn't so sure----"Woud" sounds really bug him, but not enough to permanently stop the bubbles--"(A)g'in!" This went on for almost half an hour. Isn't it amazing how easily toddlers (and grandmothers) are entertained?
16 June 2009
True Southern Hospitality
09 June 2009
Jurassic Park Visits Franklin?
I wish I could capture just how shocking it was to open my garage door and wonder if Jurassic Park had come to Fieldstone Farms (click each picture for some scale)! I ran back inside to get my camera, not knowing what might happen next. Never mind, it was only a SWIMMING POOL being delivered to neighbors I don't know . . . yet :)
26 May 2009
26 + 26 = Freaked Out!
09 May 2009
Rainy Days with Rainor
A blankie is also a nice touch . . .
Rainor's natural born scientist, like his mom, and loves to look at every little detail with a magnifying glass (especially my button bowl)
30 April 2009
Tree of Nations, Family Trees
Today was our last English class for the semester, completing a full year since we opened the doors of the Sudekum Homes ESL classroom. To mark it, we created a fun art project focusing on the beauty of our different heritages (click on images to enlarge) My inspiration was Revelation 22:2:"On each side of the river stood the tree of life . . . And the leaves of the tree are for the healing of the nations." The result? A tree of nations whose trunk (from bottom to top) is a collage of feet, then hands, then mouths, then noses, then eyes, and finally faces of all ages, colors and shapes. The branches are full of praying people from all cultures. The leaves were decorated by each of our students and volunteers. It was so interesting to observe the unfolding creativity of a group with little prior experience using simple art supplies like decorative paper, scissors and glue, stamps and markers!
We also created a wall full of family trees, that compare the way American and Somali Bantu families name their children. Part of that wall contains posters of the 12 generations of my ancestors, the "Everetts," since they came to America from England around 1630. I happen to belong to the 12th (and last) generation of this branch of Everetts, since the sisters and male cousins didn't produce heirs to the name . . . oh well.
Somali Bantu families aren't concerned with surnames or "Henry the VIIIs"--they had no written birth records until they fled to Kenya, so the way they name their children helps them track their generations quite easily . . . some can quote ten or more generations on both sides! Here's how their names work . . .
1. Choose a first name (maybe, Hawa for a girl, Salah for a boy)
2. The middle name is always the first name of the father (if Farah, she will be Hawa Farah ____; he will will be Salah Farah ___)
3. The last name is always the first name of the grandfather (perhaps, Ali). So . . . little Hawa Farah Ali will always keep her same name, even after she marries. Her brother, Salah Farah Ali , will also keep his same name; and each of his children will become ________ Salah Farah. . . the great-grandfather's name is dropped). Follow?
Neither can most Americans! [Now remember, interculturalists, "different isn't necessarily wrong, it's just . . . different."] After an excruciatingly tedious exercise of changing all 12 generations of the Everett line to their Somali Bantu forms (click on top picture), my name had become Elaine Charles Willard (vs. Elaine Everett Atchison--my parents tried to retain the family name by not giving us a middle name). In the end, my little grandson's name became David David David! The class thought that was hilarious, but don't think a thing about having a child named Mohamed Mohamud Mahamed . . . . oh well, every name is beautiful in it's own way!
16 April 2009
A Half-Century-Old and Still Cooking!
13 April 2009
A Little Scribble Scrabble
08 April 2009
Spring Break in Texas: Breaking Down Barriers, Cultivating New Ground
When visiting my parents in Houston this time, I brought the address one of my English students gave me. I said I would try to visit his elderly parents. After using Google Maps to locate their government subsidized apartments, I gingerly approached my dad about the possibility of driving over to the Second Ward to visit Farah’s parents . . . “On Runnels? Not me” was the response. I zoomed in a little closer, though he already knew the street names—“That area was a shanty town when I worked over there in 1957." Geographical barriers. Security barriers. Social barriers. I dropped the subject as we googled “Myers-Spalti Furniture Manufacturing Company”, assuming that the old buildings where my grandfather had also worked from 1905 until retirement had been torn down . . . nope, still standing with a Texas Historical Marker out front . . . on Runnels Street!
We woke up yesterday, with no real plans before my flight back to Nashville, until breakfast, when Dad suggested that we drive downtown—"We don’t have to get out of the car if it doesn't look safe." My dad is a real native Houstonian, who still knows most of its streets simply by “feel.” Since 1926, he has observed virtually every layer of Houston’s development. He grew up on La Branch Street-- once considered the edge of town, it now cuts right through the downtown skyscrapers. It was fun to hear my parents reminisce as we wound our way through the residential and business district that has dramatically evolved since the Great Depression . . . high rise lofts, electric trolleys, Minute Maid Stadium, and the JP Morgan Chase Tower (tallest in TX).
As we finally approached the "slums" we saw plenty of people carrying bottles in brown wrapping paper or pushing grocery carts; but were struck by how different it looked than what we had envisioned. Other than the Head Start Building and Boys' and Girls' Center on each side of the Administrative Office, Abdi Kawaga's complex looked more like a townhouse community than "the projects" . . . but then we were distracted by some striking red brick buildings. What? Luxury Lofts and Condominiums? A Texas Historical Marker? The utterly transformed Myers-Spalti Furniture Manufaturing Company was . . . next door!
One set of barriers fell, but more would emerge. Language barriers. Cultural barriers. Gender barriers. Generational barriers. My parents wondered what to do and say . . . or not do and not say? We briefly reviewed as we circled the complex and located Apt. 99. We were about to knock on the door, when a young African woman drove up. I asked if she speaks English or knows Mr. Kawaga or my friend, Farah. “Yes. Abdi is my grandfather and Farah is my uncle” Amina smiled, “Can you follow me to my apartment?”
The language barriers fell—Farah’s niece is a college student aiming for pharmacy school, and the most fluent Somali Bantu person I’ve met in five years. The cultural barriers fell, though my dad was a little hesitant about the refreshments (little plastic jugs of red or blue juice and a variety pack of Frito Lays chips). Gender barriers fell—the men shook hands, the women hugged and both of Farah’s parents hugged me and kissed my hands as we left! Best of all, generational barriers fell. We were one united circle of children, parents, grandparents and great-grandparents enjoying a Spring morning in the shadow of my Grandaddy Everett’s workplace. One last "coincidence" . . . I've never known where the Somali Bantu refugees were first resettled or attended school in "Space City" . . . "Braeswood area. McNamara Elementary." (Braeswood borders my parents aging suburban neighborhood and McNamara was the little school I attended from 1961-1967)! Ironic. Instructive. Charming. And unforgettable. Isn't that just like God?
02 April 2009
The Gypsy Hombres
01 April 2009
Lost in Translation: Why I'm Glad I'm Not Teaching English on April Fool's Day
Yesterday I taught two English classes and highlighted the last day of March and the first day of April. We practiced writing the dates in numbers . . . 03/31/09 and 04/01/09 . . . but since I don't teach English on Wednesdays, I never bothered to bring up the concept of "All Fools Day". Since we will break next week for Holy Week, I'm preparing a short segment on Easter for my Thursday classes . . . speaking of lost in translation and cultural collisions--that's going to be enough of a challenge for my oral (mostly pre-literate) East African Muslim students! I said "I'm preparing it" (my middle initial should have been P. for Procrastinate), but in the process, I became curious about the origins of April Fool's traditions.
Some say All Fools Day began after the Reformation, when New Year's Day was changed from April 1 to January 1--evidently, the news didn't spread consistently throughout the land, leaving some as "fools" . . . hmm. Actually it probably goes even farther back, because a few years earlier, the Romans often set aside days to play jokes on each other during spring celebrations.
If you're a bit ethnocentric, thinking everything originated in America, you're wrong . . . though early colonists from France, England and Scotland enjoyed sending people on "fools errands" like obtaining a copy of The History of Adam's Grandfather! In England, you're a "noodle" if you get pranked; in France you're the April "fish" if someone tapes a paper fish to your back without your knowledge; Scotland really does it up big--April Fool's Day lasts 48 hours--if you get tricked you're called an April "gawk" (cuckoo bird). Worse, Day 2 is full of pranks involving one's err-- backside . . . can you imagine me explaining that to my ESL classes? Maybe tomorrow's brief explanation of the Easter holy days versus the American Easter holiday won't be as difficult as I thought . . .
28 March 2009
Talking with the Worms
17 March 2009
Pinch Me (I'm 1/6 Irish)!
05 March 2009
Coughing Up A Garden (Click here)
02 March 2009
Two Interesting Questions
Last week, I was reading about Ash Wednesday as “an invitation” to the Lenten season. I’ve always considered Lent a cheerless, rather legalistic tradition—usually revolving around a diet of some sort. I hadn’t considered that, celebrated correctly, it is a time of being refreshed by a loving God with the purpose of strengthening our spiritual lives. I totally missed the point that forty days to focus on the meaning of my life in Christ is not so much about taking off something as taking on a spiritual discipline or practice to cleanse my mind and focus my soul before Easter. Oh . . .
The evening before Ash Wednesday (aka Fat Tuesday), I looked up the times for Ash Wednesday services and texted Kristi to see if she wanted to join me. “Yes!” she replied. But by the next morning I had a nagging headache . . . maybe from some trepidation about being an outsider for an Anglican tradition I didn’t really understand. I told Kristi that if she really wanted to go she would have to talk me into it. All she said was, “Melinda would want you to go.” Oh . . .
So we met, and happily, found our friend, Deb, who knew what to expect and helped us navigate all the readings and prayers and kneeling and going forward and kneeling and going forward and kneeling again. It was a rich experience . . . especially the serene quietness and unhurried pace . . . for that hour I was truly an insider because it was not me-centered, but Christ-centered. Everyone parted after sharing The Peace, with little crosses of ash gently drawn on our foreheads (not fireplace ashes, but the cinders saved from last year’s palm fronds from the Palm Sunday processional) Oh . . .
As we drove away, each person had an inner conflict to resolve—do I rub off the ashes or leave them for a while? You don’t want to make someone to feel “irreligious” for not acknowledging this holy day; yet you don’t want to be ashamed to share an outward sign of your faith . . . these days, the most common question is not “Where did you get your ashes?” but “What is that mark on your face?” I drove through Starbucks to get some tea (not what I’m taking off during Lent) but the well-trained barista acted like he didn’t notice and said nothing at all!
I went on to the office, and began my Wednesday afternoon ritual. . . making copies for my ESL classes, spreading them out on the floor, and crawling around on my hands and knees to collate them. But while I was kneeling for this totally different purpose, I felt a little POP! and a weird sinking feeling all through my way-lower back (aka boot). Even though it took me about ten minutes to get up, move to a chair, summon my husband for some Advil, then shuffle to the car, I found myself giggling at the irony. My ashes were washed off within a few hours, but for a few days now, I’ve had quite a few people ask “Why are you limping?” The only honest answer is, “I guess I don’t kneel often enough.” Oh . . .